Do any sisters have a good recipe for couscous?
Jazzakum Allaahu kheir.
O Allaah don’t attach our heart to anyone except for You.
From blossoms comes
this brown paper bag of peaches
we bought from the boy
at the bend in the road where we turned toward
signs painted Peaches.
From laden boughs, from hands,
from sweet fellowship in the bins,
comes nectar at the roadside, succulent
peaches we devour, dusty skin and all,
comes the familiar dust of summer, dust we eat.
O, to take what we love inside,
to carry within us an orchard, to eat
not only the skin, but the shade,
not only the sugar, but the days, to hold
the fruit in our hands, adore it, then bite into
the round jubilance of peach.
There are days we live
as if death were nowhere
in the background; from joy
to joy to joy, from wing to wing,
from blossom to blossom to
impossible blossom, to sweet impossible blossom.
Hey guys, my dad is in a bad coma and he is on life support. The doctors said that he might not make it. Can you guys please please pray for him? It would mean alot.
Whenever you’re tempted to sin, remember Jannah. Then remember Naar. Then have mercy upon your heart, for there is no sin except that it has its effect on the heart. Above all, remember your Creator.
Especially when it comes to issues related to the roles of women within Islam. It’s almost as if when we discuss anything close to the subject, sisters are prepared to jump off houses and cliffs to protest anything related to the topic.
For a long time it used to bother me. Upset me, and ultimately led me to have a negative view of alot of sisters. As how can you talk about how you love the deen, and our prophet(SalAllahu Alehi Wasalaam) but then have a double standard on everything you do. For instance, when hijab is spoken how many spout off their opinions and feelings regarding it? How many, instead of saying, “My lord commanded me to cover” FIRST say, “It’s my choice”. Other issues like this, but as I’ve gotten older one thing I’ve learned to do is observe any situation and listen before saying anything.
I understand that for a lot of women, when the topic is discussed, the emotion sometimes come from pent up anger towards their culture. Where little Zaynab is told she must cook and clean, while little Abdullah is allowed to run wild all over town. Then you have the liberal apporach which affects so many, and that is telling women they are no different than men and they should ‘aspire to be more than housewives’. If a woman does not do that, then she is a failure.
It amazes me, that we never mention the fact that some great female scholars became great female scholars without even leaving their homes. We never mention the fact that a great female scholar today, Shaykhah Umm Abdillah al Wadi’eeyyah, has never been seen by men nor heard by them, but we all are aware of her knowledge. Amazing that these women attain such rank in their deen, while the same women rebelling against this idea of ‘a woman’s origin of affairs is her home’ have not reached such a rank.
I’d like sisters to remember one thing. WE did not make up anything, nor have I, myself, said that which is not only apart of the fitra(natural human disposition) but Allah made it clear when he commanded women to stay in their homes. The women of the Salaf, never rebelled against these verses as many have today. It constantly has to be mentioned, just so there will be no riot, that a woman may work outside her home so long as it does not harm her duties to her home.
Sisters, May Allah bless you, did you ever ponder WHY our mothers have more rights to us than our fathers? Did you think the women of the past gave birth, stayed at home for a month, then went back to the same ol’ hustle? Our mothers give up so much for their children and their family. Her physical sacrificing in giving birth, by itself, is enough to show her virtue. WE never truly ponder our religion, do we?
I only advise understanding the issue. Not emotional responses to the subject which, more often than not, leads to rejecting something of the shari’ah. Allahu musta’aan
وَقَرْنَ فِى بُيُوتِكُنَّ﴾
(And stay in your houses,) means, stay in your houses and do not come out except for a purpose. One of the purposes mentioned in Shari`ah is prayer in the Masjid, so long as the conditions are fulfilled, as the Messenger of Allah said:
«لَا تَمْنَعُوا إِمَاءَ اللهِ مَسَاجِدَ اللهِ وَلْيَخْرُجْنَ وَهُنَّ تَفِلَات»
(Do not prevent the female servants of Allah from the Masjids of Allah, but have them go out without wearing fragrance.) According to another report:
«وَبُيُوتُهُنَّ خَيْرٌ لَهُن»
(even though their houses are better for them.)
﴿وَلاَ تَبَرَّجْنَ تَبَرُّجَ الْجَـهِلِيَّةِ الاٍّولَى﴾
(and do not Tabarruj yourselves like the Tabarruj of the times of ignorance,) Mujahid said: “Women used to go out walking in front of men, and this was the Tabarruj of Jahiliyyah.” Qatadah said:
﴿وَلاَ تَبَرَّجْنَ تَبَرُّجَ الْجَـهِلِيَّةِ الاٍّولَى
(and do not Tabarruj yourselves like the Taburruj of the times of ignorance,) “When they go out of their homes walking in a shameless and flirtatious manner, and Allah, may He be exalted, forbade that.” Muqatil bin Hayyan said:
﴿وَلاَ تَبَرَّجْنَ تَبَرُّجَ الْجَـهِلِيَّةِ الاٍّولَى
(and do not Tabarruj yourselves like the Tabarruj of the times of ignorance,) “Tabarruj is when a woman puts a Khimar on her head but does not tie it properly.” So her necklaces, earrings and neck, and all of that can be seen. This is Tabarruj, and Allah addresses all the women of the believers with regard to Tabarruj.